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Learning to love your inner child
"Why do I need to talk about my childhood?" This is a question I often get asked by clients first entering counselling. "I survived" a client once said to me with a big shrug, "why does it matter, let's move on". I completely see his point but the reason therapists...
How to support yourself in burnout
At some point in our lives we can all enter some form of burnout, physical, emotional or combined. Most of us can resonate with overwhelm and exhaustion but If you, or someone you love or care for is Neurodivergent, you may notice how exhausted and wrung out you (or...
Transitioning with the seasons
As the days get shorter and the nights draw in, we start to feel Winter approaching. As someone who loves the sun, as soon as it starts to loose its warmth, I start to feel such loss, wishing it had been a longer more productive Summer 🌞 (it is never long enough for...
What needs to be in place to start effective therapy
I often get approached by clients who are really keen to start therapy but are unsure if it's the right time for them. It's a really tough one to answer but I always list these three states and ask them to reflect on them: 1. Headspace: if you are in the midst of lots...
Learning to explore and accept how we feel
If we are looking for ways to help us change the relationship we have with ourselves, beginning to connect to our feelings is a great place to start. Feelings are the compass to our world, and if we ignore them, we risk being disconnected from our unmet needs and...
The many ways grief impacts us
As a past client once said the me; "Bereavement is like being on a rollercoaster, you never knew what is coming next" She had developed severe anxiety and insomnia for the first time in her life, her overwhelm and loss was impacting her ability to do simple tasks....
Searching for Neurodiverse affirming therapy
Searching for a therapist that aligns with you is incredibly hard. It is such an important and vulnerable making relationship, so it needs to be right for you. As a Neurodiverse individual it is even more vital that this therapist is informed and aware of what you...
The signs of emotional overwhelm
Being aware of our emotional load and knowing when it's becoming too much is a careful balancing act. Physical overwhelm is probably easier to recognise for most of us; back pain or a headache which means we have to stop and take notice, even go to bed. Emotional...
Neurodivurgent self care and affirming practice
Over my many years of supporting my clients with ADHD and Autism (and other neurodivurgence), I have learnt so much about how important self care and self caretaking are to secure mental health. This week is Neurodiversity Celebration Week, so the perfect time to take...
Menopause and our emotional health
I work with many women to support them as they approach or come in to menopause. We are now far more aware of the list of physical list of symptoms of the menopause; ranging from dry skin, pins and needles, migraines to hot flushes, but a lesser known side effect is...
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Recently I have begun to notice that it is the stories we tell ourselves that are often the most powerful narratives in our head. It is these stories that can become our truths and drive our life experiences, unless we begin to notice their impact and challenge them....
Do you need to be in crisis to come in to therapy?
Over the years one of the questions I often get asked is; Does it need to be an emotional crisis before I ask for support and enter therapy? The answer is no, therapy is also a great place to come to explore life changes and plans for the future. Most people know that...